IF I understand you correctly, you want to remove existing 2x fir treads and replace them with new 5/4" oak treads. So you want to have the new treads, which are thinner, remain at the same height as the old ones were, right? The answer is quite simple. The old treads were 2x stock, which typically is 1.5" thick. The new treads are 5/4 stock, which is typically 1&1/16" thick. To make the new treads sit were the old treads were, all you need to do is add furring strips of 7/16" to each bearing surface of the existing stringers, also called horses or carriages. This is the easiest and most secure way of doing it. Personally, I'd use 3/8" plywood strips; 1.5" x the length of the run, usually 10.5". Just glue them down and brad nail. Any wood glue will work fine
#2. I use a Stair Wizard jig. Woodwise make a cheaper jig.
http://www.woodwise.com/tools/jig.html
#3. PL 400 is the best. Liquid nails subfloor adhesive or heavy duty construction adhesive is fine. If you can get Bostick's Best in a gun tube, that would be great as well. Just make sure that the adhesive contains NO WATER. Haven't seen spiral finish nails. Trim head srews work GREAT but leave a hole about the size of a casing nail.
Hope this helps. BTW, I've built and rebuilt dozens and dozens of stairs. You can trust that doing it this way will work the best.