NOFMA states that most (all) solid flooring is to be nailed, especially over wood subfloors. If the flooring and subfloors were at equilibrium (RH and MC) at the time of installation, I find it odd that now, there are major gaps occurring. All that can be assumed is that the flooring was higher in MC than now and it has shrunk, due to lower RH conditions. I'd retest the MC and check on the RH. Your MIL may need a humidifier. Also, maple is known to be less stable than many hardwoods. You air pressure was a little high. I typically run my M111 FS at 80 psi. Why did you need to run your's at 100? I'm sure LL would say that is a nail down floor, not a gluedown. Furthermore, expansion gaps at the perimeter have nothing to do with gapping that I can see. All that can be assumed at this point is that the floor has lost MC , if gapping and splitting are the complaints. BTW, the nailing should have been every 8" and within 2" of every end butt. But I do not think that would contribute to gaps. How the floor was cleaned could have contributed to the flaws if it was wet mopped during installation, expanded, then shrank again afterwards. It does not factor that she hasn't kept it very clean as that doesn't effect the size of the boards. Consider reading these NOFMA articles:
http://www.nofma.org/Portals/0/Publicat ... isture.pdf
http://www.nofma.org/Portals/0/Publicat ... rmance.pdf
http://www.nofma.org/Portals/0/Publicat ... 005_04.pdf